2. Face your fear.
“The way to develop self-confidence is to do the thing you fear.”
William Jennings Bryan
“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ You must do the thing you think you cannot do.”
You can get rid of your fear if you are not willing to face them it is fastest way to get rid of fear. Having faced your fear gives you experiences that will build your self-confidence.
You should read this article if you want to get rid of your fear Self-improvement: Ways to Overcome Fear.
3. Understand in what order things happen.
One of my favorite snippets of movie-dialogue is this one from the 1999 film “Three Kings”.
In this scene Major Archie Gates (George Clooney) wants the small team to save a fellow soldier and steal Saddam’s gold just after the first Gulf War has ended.
The young soldier Conrad Vig (Spike Jonze) has his doubts about the plan:
Archie Gates: You’re scared, right?
Conrad Vig: Maybe.
Archie Gates: The way it works is, you do the thing you’re scared shitless of, and you get the courage AFTER you do it, not before you do it.
Conrad Vig: That’s a dumbass way to work. It should be the other way around.
Archie Gates: I know. That’s the way it works.
Confidence comes after you have done the work not before it. So get yourself to take action even if when you not feel like it.
“One important key to success is self-confidence. An important key to self- confidence is preparation.”
Preparing yourself for taking action will help you taking action. But be aware to not get stuck in the preparation phase.