You have to understand one thing that anger cannot and will not solve any of your problems. You can get angry on your past and till will destroy you. Or you can get angry on your parents that will hold you back.
The only way you will get anything do is only if you focus your energy on things that you can do in your life. Not on things that are just as they are. You have to learn to let go. I know it is hard thing to do but you will only do it if.
Anger is bad for your health
We all have heard about the health problem that we can get from anger. The main problem is not the generation of anger but the way we deal with it. We all get angry in some point in life but that is not the problem. The problem is the dealing mechanism that we have in place.
Anger is bad for your relationships
Anger is cause of a lot of broken relationships. Sometime it do not effect at first the other person can think that it is a onetime thing. But after you see a pattern you are concerned about your future.
What most of people do is leave that person if they can and move on and for the person who gets angry it just triggers more anger.
Anger is bad for inner peace
You cannot have a healthy soul if you hold on to anger. It will destroy all that there is you should learn to let it go. If you hold on to anger you will see that you will be unhappy and discontent from your life more.
Inner peace is not talked a lot but is one of the most important things of all in our lives. If you do not have inner peace then you do not get 50% of what you have already.
Anger is bad for your future
If you are a person who is working under someone and cannot control your anger when situation is not right you might lose your temper. You can have a situation where you can lose your job.
If that is not the case and own company then you can lose productive employees due to your anger. Anger is not only bad for your employs but for your customers as well.
How to reduce your anger
Now you know why anger is not good for you. Many of you might already know some of the down side of anger. But today you will learn how to get hold of your anger.
You cannot change who you are but you can control what you do. Here are some things that you can do today that will help you better control your anger in the future.
Meditation is a very old technique with a lot of benefits one of which is reducing anger. You will understand your anger when you meditate you will see yourself with other person eyes and see where the anger was unnecessary. In the process become less angry.
A simple practice that you can do is sit in a quiet place and focus on the things that make you angry. Then try to think of the reason why. If you know why things make you angry then you can get a better chance of moving forward.
When you have found the thing that make you angry and the reason for it next thing that you can do form a plan. A simple step by step plan of things that you can do that will help you in the future when the same thing happens again.
It is a great method that I use a lot of time thinking ahead. What do I mean by think ahead? It is simple whenever you will anger building in you which you will be able to do after some meditation sections.
You will see that you are getting angry and trying to do something like raising your voice or punching someone. What you will do is think ahead what that mean is that you will see what will happen if you what you are thinking of doing. How will it affect things? If you do not like the results then control yourself and chose a different path.
Get your expectations right
A lot of your anger comes from the wrong expectations from the world. Like you expect that if you drive right everyone in the world will also follow the rules. But we all know that that is not the case so when someone cuts you in traffic you get angry. But if you do not expect anyone to drive right then you will not get angry at someone cutting you.
It how you chose to see the world it does not matter how the world really is it is your perception that matters.
Better understand yourself
The more you know yourself, the more patience you have for what you see in others.
The best is saved for the last you can only able to control your anger if and only if you know yourself. If you know the entire situation in which you will get angry and prepare for them in advance then there is a better chance of your making peace.
You always have a choice but the most important thing is that if you are ready to take the action necessary.
Now you know why anger is bad for you. It can destroy your health, relationships, future and inner peace. That are not all the things that anger can destroy you know what the things that you want to save are.
You also know some of the things that you can do today that will help you get better at controlling your anger. But like anything in life if you want something you have to work for it.
Like you want to build a healthy body you have to eat right and exercise. You have to put the work to get the result that you want. It is same with anger management you cannot get rid of your anger but you can learn to better manage it.